Staying Grounded While Falling in Love

Published by Deep Soul Love 2020

# Reflect on your own unique needs and give your relationships boundaries that maintain space for you

It can be easy for love to sweep us off our feet, especially in new relationships. 

When falling in love, a part of our brain lights up that correlates with infatuation, often referred to as “puppy love.” 

When we’re in this state, all we can focus on is the point of our infatuation. 

The pleasure-seeking parts of our brains cause us to become so excited to be with that other person that we can become enraptured with their presence, tossing aside our interests and me-time, focusing only on what can bring us closer to that enticing butterfly feeling. 

While getting butterflies and feeling connected are truly beautiful experiences, it is important to stay grounded in ourselves during this time. 

This may mean making decisions based not on what you want in the moment, but slowing down and reflecting on what you need. 

“I need a break.” 

Pop culture has coded this infamous line as meaning we are being rejected or rejecting others, but in reality, we all need a break from others to take time for ourselves. 

If we only ever choose to act in our significant other’s best interest — even if, in that moment, we want to put them first, over our own needs — then serious issues can later arise like a loss of self, low self-confidence and esteem, and even resentment toward our significant other. 

Breaks can offer you the space to become attuned to what your system needs instead of rushing to chase that love-drug feeling. 

These breaks can look like taking a night to stay-in and catch up on your favorite show or go-out with just your friends. 

In order to stay grounded, you need to reflect on your own unique needs and give your relationships boundaries that maintain space for you. 

After all, that’s who the other person fell in love with! 

Logan Brantley, LGSW – www.vivapartnership.com